Commentary: Slow down to make meaningful connections in a fast-paced world
Can we still make meaningful connections in a competitive, technology-dominated world? (Photo: Unsplash/Helena Lopes)
SINGAPORE: If we had to point to one thing we are short of that is causing most of us to miss out on opportunities, most of us might think it is money - but that increasingly isn’t the case.Contrary to popular belief, it’s also not motivation.
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READ: Finding love in Singapore, one swipe at a time, a commentaryThe lesson isn’t that online dating will lead you to form meaningful friendships or find the one. But it is a way to meet others and try to see if there’s enough common ground for a long-term friendship, when time is not on your side.JUST KEEP AT ITFor those trying to make new friends online, my own advice is to be clear of what you hope to achieve when you meet someone and to just keep at it.It’s always nerve-wrecking meeting someone for the first time but what do you have to lose?Think of it as meeting a friend’s friend for the first time. Get to know people, have polite conversations, and don’t put pressure on yourself.
READ: Take the plunge to meet in person, in the quest for love onlineThe key to maintaining new friendships is to constantly communicate and make it a point to meet regularly. Showing that you are putting in effort highlights how keen you are in maintaining the friendship which will hopefully be met with reciprocity.It sounds hard but if there is genuine chemistry and common interests, putting in the effort should come naturally. If it doesn’t, perhaps that also teaches you something about yourself, your interests and what matters to you in making a genuine connection with someone.At the end of the day, forming long-lasting friendships or relationships isn’t rocket science. It is up to you to put in the effort into maintaining them.Ng Jing Shen is chief executive officer of Paktor Group.